Have you ever dreamed the same thing over and over again?
Many of my dreams include houses. I used to dream repeatedly about a two-story house with a center staircase. Though I haven’t dreamed about it lately, it’s still very vivid in my mind and I wonder if it actually exists somewhere.
I’ve also had this dream before, the one about mail. The setting is usually different, but the result is the same.
Do you remember the film BEING THERE with Peter Sellers, a simple-minded gardener whose only contact with life comes through platitudes he has heard? He is mistaken for being wise, but he is essentially clueless.
When I was a girl—maybe in junior high (which translates to “middle school”), I wrote the sentence “Stuffed so full of fairytales, the world is an illusion.” I was referring to my sisters and me as we spent years sitting in front of fairytale books or the television, absorbing stories of princesses and romantic oddball comedies as though they were instruction manuals. One sister took THE PRINCESS BRIDE as a model of what a love relationship should look like. How did that turn out for her in real life? Not well.
Our parents had an idea that if they sheltered their all-girl family from everything ugly, we would become pure and sweet and stay that way. What happened was we were left incredibly naïve. For example, what happens in romantic comedies when the female lead keeps putting the male lead down or even ignores him altogether? He follows after her, hopelessly obsessed with changing her mind. What happens in real life? He leaves.
The heroes in the old stories and films were always handsome, brave, and true. I spent years scorning the boys in my class because they didn’t match up to the characters actors like Cary Grant created on screen. I searched in vain for guys who looked remotely similar to the animated princes who rode in to save Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty or Snow White. The boys in my class belched and acted silly.
In those days, the heroines were hopelessly guileless. They had no hope of surviving without a hero to ride to the rescue. Even as a child, I couldn’t figure out why the leading ladies could sing so well but couldn’t think critically at all. Newer animated films, of course, feature much stronger females. However, when I recently asked a five-year-old if the girls in her games of pretend always had to be married, she told me, “Of course!” Nearly every story pairs off the leads. The little girls understand the message.
What’s wrong with a fairytale view of life? Optimism is good, unless it means ignoring reality—pretending not to see bullying or poverty or injustice. Ignoring reality results in letting other people make the hard decisions. It results in allowing injustices and cruelties to go on and on. Young women who grow up believing someone has to take care of them are vulnerable and often unhappy. Women who grow up believing women must be young and seductive to be valuable end up depressed and depressing. In fairytales, magic and gold solve the problems. In real life, people must solve their own problems. As much as I love fantasy and romance, we should never drink so deeply of the brew that the world becomes an illusion.
Last year, I did a very interesting healing with a painter. She had been depressed for some time.
Although many natural healing remedies had helped her to feel less blue – yoga, nutritional supplements – she was still mildly dissatisfied and unable to break her cycle. She came to me for a medical intuitive reading and healing. I asked for guidance and received the information that she needed to paint a minimum of 1 and a half hours every other day to eliminate her depression for good. Although she had painted in the past, her artistic efforts had been sporadic in a stop-and-go fashion.
“Look at this like your mental health project,” I advised her. “It doesn’t matter whether you paint or draw, whether you sell your artwork or don’t sell your art. Just do something at least 1 and a half hours every day and then you will feel dramatically better.”
She followed my advice and, voila, her depression was gone.
Yesterday, I was doing a healing for a woman who practices energy medicine. Although she is an accomplished practitioner, she had gotten away from energy work and her life has been out of order in several dimensions – especially financially and mentally.
“You have to allow the healing energy to flow through you,” I advised her. “You need to work with at least three clients a week or you won’t feel right. You are blocking the flow and getting all turned around as a result.”
Many of us receive divine inspiration on a regular basis. Your soul could want to paint, heal, write or create in some other way – in business, for example. If you do not allow this divine inspiration to flow through you, to work through you, to be birthed by you, you may end up feeling not only depressed but the word I would use for this condition is dispirited – out of touch with who you are, not able to put your finger on exactly what is wrong with you, going from one therapist to the other with no result.
You may be coping by drinking too much alcohol, overworking or abusing yourself in many other ways.
Here’s the rub. If you already know you are a naturally creative person, if you don’t create, if you do not allow divine inspiration to flow through you, you will not feel right no matter if you are taking vitamins, exercising, talking to a therapist about your childhood, receiving acupuncture, taking antidepressants, etc. etc. etc.
You need to be living in harmony with your what your soul is longing to do, so you might as well follow your guidance and allow divine inspiration to flow through you.
I had this experience myself. After publishing my first book in 1997, I went through a 15-year dry spell. My soul longed to write more books but nothing was happening, nothing was coming through me until I wrote the rough draft of my second book, What Is Healing? Awaken Your Intuitive Power for Health and Happiness.
Even though I had been making money, serving others and growing in many ways as a person and even blogging and writing a monthly newsletter, I didn’t feel quite myself until I finally broke down and allowed divine inspiration to flow through me in the form of a book.
Another friend of mine was given the guidance that if she didn’t start teaching again she would become ill. We all have a special gift – a gift that only YOU can give – that your soul is deeply longing to contribute.
Stop making yourself sick by blocking your soul. Just go do it!
What is healing? Healing happens when we allow divine inspiration to flow through us.
Catherine Carrigan is a medical intuitive healer, a fitness and nutrition expert, a playwright and the Amazon Nº. 1 best-selling author of What Is Healing? Awaken Your Intuitive Power For Health And Happiness and Unlimited Energy Now. She is currently editing her fourth book, Banish the Blues Now.